Stress, anger and conformity are unique concepts, however, there are many points of intersection. Each of these exhibits some form of control as well as a close connection to the person’s individuality, social norms and expectations. The interview essay will analyze the circumstances or conditions of life of an individual named John Smith. The examination will take place in accordance to personal beliefs and social regulations which Mr. Smith deems necessary for proper functioning in social circles.
John Smith is one of the major analysts for a software company that specializes in educational and cognitive development programs. He has been employed in the company for several years and has gained a reputation of a knowledgeable and respectful worker. His colleagues respect him as a kind person who is ready to help with an advice or any other work related needs The issue with Mr. Smith is that sometimes he is too shy, lacks assertiveness, and hesitates to stand up for himself which leads to repression of hurtful feelings and displeasement. As a result, there are moments when his nervousness increases quickly and it becomes difficult to control the overwhelming feeling as the repressed emotions are looking for a way out. John is married, he has two children, a son and a daughter. John Smith does not follow any particular religion, yet he believes that there is a higher force in existence. His ethnical background is European since his relatives came to the United States during the first wave of colonization of North America.
- Do you exercise regularly or perform some form of activity on a daily basis?
- How often do you go out and have leisure time?
- What are your hobbies?
- What is your least favorite thing, activity or situation?
- What is your most favorite time passing?
- How do you deal with stress?
- Would you say that your work environment is stressful, absolutely stress free or somewhere in the middle?
- Do you have any conflict with your co-workers or management?
- Have you had any promotions in the time of your employment in the company?
- How would you describe your relationship with the wife?
- How often do you go on dates?
- Have you gone on any vacations in the past several years?
- Do you feel that your wife is happy or not?
- How is your relationship with the children?
- Do you spend more time with your daughter, son or is it balanced down the middle?
- Do they cause you any particular worries?
- How do you deal with stress?
- Is there a difference of how you react at home versus your response at work or any other public/private place?
- Have you ever lost your temper and said things that you later regretted?
- How did you deal with such a situation?
- What are your career plans?
- Do you have any particular wants towards your family, home and employment?
- What do you think about the modern society and how it is developing?
- Can it be said that you take a particular interest in the traditions and culture of your city/country?
- Have there been times when you were forced to attend some type of community program or event?
- How did you deal with the fact that you could not feel free in your actions?
- Do the rules and laws of society put a strain on your life?
- Would you say that you have become a victim of social conformity?
- Have you ever broken the law, and if yes, were you charged with an offense?
- If answered yes to the previous question, describe the experience including participation in any correctional programs, court hearings or other related judicial proceedings.
- Where do you see yourself in a year?
- What are you planning to accomplish in the next 5 years?
- What parts of your personality do you think require more attention and work or improvement?
The above questions have been asked in order to understand John’s personality.
- The first part of the questionnaire is targeting Mr. Smith’s personal life in a general way. This is meant to establish a routine and overall impression of what stressors, if any, are present in John’s life.
- The next part addresses work environment and the position in the company. The purpose of this is to find out how work attitude and habits might influence personal dilemmas, and whether there are personal problems which are brought from home into the work environment. The questions regarding family life and relationship with the wife and children are critical when finding out how happy John Smith is. A lot depends on what the person comes home to, so it is imperative to find out if there is the needed support which family members can expect from their closest friends and children. As people spend the majority if their time at work, many feelings that one experiences, such as happiness, anger, resentment or respect, will be dealt with in the place of employment. This goes to show that the work environment is extremely indicative of the attitudes and behavior exhibited by an individual.
- The last part of the interview provides a look into the future plans of the interviewee with the purpose of determining direction and perseverance of the individual (Brew & Kottler, 2007).
In order to learn how John Smith deals with stress, anger and conformity, the questions must specifically address all the instances where one can encounter unwanted behavior from others or a situation which is not favorable towards the person in question. These specific questions were asked to learn about habits which John has in relation to his work and home. A comparison between different locations and situations will provide insights into his emotional stability (Smith, 2012). Oftentimes, people adjust their behavior according to the situation they are in. For example, at work, one might be patient and quiet because of fear to be terminated or to anger the boss. As a consequence, the home environment might become an outlet for anger and abuse which is kept inside during other times of the day. The relationship between a person’s internal understanding of their character and how they view society has a great deal to do with the balance in attitude and behavior.
John Smith’s short term goals include saving money to buy a new car. This has been in the planning for some time, and the necessary amount of resources has been almost acquired. As children are beginning to participate in activities such as sports and other recreational programs, a bigger vehicle is needed to take them to practices. Long term goal is to find a job further away from the city because the busy atmosphere and too much work lead to less time spent with the family. Also, John believes that it would be better for the children to grow up closer to nature with clean air and an opportunity to explore.
Overall, Mr. Smith has shown to have well established control of his emotions, particularly anger and conflict. The conformity aspect of the interview needs a closer analysis as it is difficult to cover all aspects of the social and private life in relation to the larger scope of things.